I’m sure you’ve heard this phrase, over and over and over and over again; and the reason you’re mostly likely to receive 99.8% of the time is “I don’t know, I just don’t.” Just to keep you from wondering THIER actual reason why.
10 times out of 10, what they said was highkey racist and their reason would be based off the negative stereotypes and cruel memes that are always shown on social media about black girls and what they mean by saying they don’t like black girls. They actually mean that they like black girls of a lighter skin tone.
This is when the insecurities and lack of self-esteem start for dark-skinned girls (obviously it doesn’t start with boys) it starts with ignorant comments and insults on social media, edits made for negative and cruel intentions too.
Throughout primary and secondary school, it will be the years that will be filled with ignorant people bringing them down to make themselves feel better, dark skinned girls finding themselves along the way; all with one goal. To be comfortable in their skin.
If you have a crush on someone and later on you find out that they don’t like black girls, instead of using all of your time and energy to find out the reason why your crush don’t like black girls and interrogate them to like black girls. Move on baby girl. Because clearly he or she must be intimidated by them. I never said that the other ethnicities aren’t beautiful. We all are. But while growing, darkskinned girls (even across all cultures) has been slandered; even by our own people as well. Which is unfortunate.
But yeah, back to the point, the message that I’m sending through this post is that especially for dark skinned and black girls in general, is that self love must be taught at a young age to avoid serious insecurities and anxiety. From teaching self love to young girls and as they grow up, nothing negative can affect them in the future as they would of invested in so much time with themselves.
The best way to start with self love for darkskinned girls would be to look at popular girls in on social media who are also darksdarkskinned and how they manage to love themselves and what was their journey like in self love.
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