(The title may throw you off lol, but it’l make sense later on)
This question has been on my mind a lot lately and I feel the need to just get it out, and from what I heard from others; they make seem like it’s easy to get over it.
The question I want to ask is:
“Why do people go right back to their partners who cheated on them?”
Honesty though. Why? When your partner steps out of their relationship or marriage, they’re selfish. Instead of discussing how they feel in the relationship or even your marriage and from that point you would try to work it out by going counselling or couples therapy, they throw it out the window, they sacrifice everything because they’ve claimed to have made a so called “mistake”, when it was not a mistake, it was a choice.
When someone gets cheated on, it not only hurts them emotionally and mentally, it knocks down their self-esteem and confidence too. It also scars them for the rest of their lives and n some cases,they may not ever fall in love again.
And to the people who take back their cheating partner. How? Seriously How? After everything they’ve done to you, and you know for a fact that they are not going to change for the better.
This is where self love comes in, from when you are complete and in love with yourself, you are more likely to respect yourself know when you deserve better. Even if you’re married, how can you do that to your spouse, knowing that that was person that you want to spend the resr of your life with? Breaking your vows and promises for one night to please yourself?
I don’t want to waffle on about it, but if someone cheated on you, they clearly don’t love you or respect you.
So from when you’re exiting from a bad relationship or marriage, focus on rebuilding yourself. If your career and dreams were put on hold, rebuild it. Pick it up from where it was left off. There’s no reason as to why your dreams should be put on hold for someone else. Start a self care routine, start meditating, if you have kids, put them first and make them a priority.
To the women and men who has been cheated on, I just want you to do better, and know that when someone breaks your heart, don’t go back to them to heal as they once broke you.
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